Erica Scott: Life, Love and Spanking

Ruminations, opinionated observations, darkly humorous blathering and the occasional rant from an outspoken spanko and unapologetic attention wh–, um, hog.


On this date (Memorial Day), anyone who knows me, knows that the day has a dual significance. First, of course, is for remembering our veterans and their sacrifices for all of us. And second, today is the 18th anniversary of my first spanking.

In a recent blog, I talked about technique and aim, and was asked if I was willing to play with an inexperienced top. The answer is yes; if I didn’t, I’d never have played with my very first top. Because he’d never spanked before.

So funny to think back on that now. I mean, these days with a lot of experience behind me (no pun intended), I probably would be hesitant about bottoming to a virgin top. Thank goodness I didn’t feel that way back then, right? I simply didn’t know any different. I went by instinct alone — I found him attractive, I liked the way he talked, I liked his air of confidence. I somehow knew this was going to be right.

I learned something that first time, and it continues to be true — some people are naturals at topping. They have an instinctive feel for it, a sense of what to do and say, even if they’ve never done it before. This man, Paul, spoke to me like a veteran spanko would. His voice was smooth and cool and deliberate, and he said all the right things. He knew to hook his legs over mine when I thrashed. He paced it properly. How did he know? He loved control and dominance, and he had done bondage and pinning and take-downs, but never spanking. Oh… and his aim was spot on. He covered both cheeks thoroughly. Some tops spank for years and never master that.

Was it perfect? Of course not. He gave no aftercare. And he left it to me to end the scene; told me he’d keep going until I decided I’d had enough and used the safeword we chose. I ended it not because I couldn’t take more — I would have gone on and on — but I was concerned about going too far my first time. And oh, what beautiful marks I had. How I miss those days of perfect hand prints, of red and purple streaks that last for days. But I have my memories.

I still think about him. Wonder where he is, how he is, if he found his perfect mate. I wish we could have kept in touch. I wish he could have seen what he started. But life goes on, and people come and go in it. Paul was not meant to be a permanent fixture. Spanking wasn’t even his thing, and that would have shown itself. But for this one day, for a unique moment in time, he was the most special of spankers to me.

Today, I am off to the gym, then back here to do some work. Tomorrow, I see Steve and play. It’s overdue.

A heartfelt thank-you — to our veterans, and to my very special spanking veteran from way back when.

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18 thoughts on “Memories

  1. I remember the encounter from your book. Nice blog entry.


  2. Mace — ah, yes. Those who read the book get to find out the whole story. πŸ˜‰


  3. I'm glad your first encounter went well. Paul sounds like a natural. I hope he has learned when and how to end play.

    Here's a choice threat for endurance-oriented, high-impact bottoms: “If you don't behave (stop wiggling or whatever), I'll stop spanking you and make you write sentences instead!”

    That'll learn us!


  4. AP — no writing for me. That would be a hard limit. πŸ™‚


  5. Anonymous on said:

    Erica, thanks for veteran support and for sharing this wonderful memory with all of us! I, personally, am ecstatic that he started something so special that I get to enjoy to this day! I miss you!

    Your Michael


  6. Happy anniversary! May be youΒ΄ll trace him down for the 4th lustrum.


  7. Michael — I miss you too! And any woman who'd have you for her first spanker would be lucky indeed. β™₯

    MrJ — nah. I don't think he wants to be found, unfortunately.


  8. Hi Erica — Thanks for sharing this WONDERFUL memory with us πŸ™‚ Your first spanking sounds so AWESOME. Happy 18th anniversary πŸ™‚ I remember my first spanking, it was ok but yours is way better. I agree that people come and go in our lives, We didn't meet them by accident, they were meant to cross our path for a reason πŸ™‚ I truly miss some of the people that were in my life 😦 There is not a day that goes by that I don't wish, that they were here by my side.Unfortunately you can't control, people,places or things.You only have control of your own self.I hate change it SUCKS, it's not always for the better. Much Love and hugs from naughty girl Jade


  9. Jade — change does suck, sometimes. No argument here.


  10. Erica, I don't live too far from you and I'd love try topping with you. I've had two wonderful spanking relationships in my life, but none in a long time (I'm over 70 now). When I get going I have the feeling I'm a natural. Is there any way to make this happen?


  11. Terry — well… this isn't really the place to discuss this, but I thank you for your interest. I have a wonderful top right now, and am not seeking anyone else at this time. πŸ™‚


  12. Kelly on said:

    18 years of blistered cheeks and sassy comebacks! Congratulations Eric and here's to at least 18 more. πŸ™‚

    That's extremely impressive to me that a first time top can have such prowess. It takes so much skill to perfect that role. Even though he lacked in some preferences as controlling the length of the scene and skipping the aftercare, those were likely easily remedied.


  13. Kelly — I think one perfects technique, persona, communication skills over time. But some seem to have a natural instinct for how to do it right. And because I was new too, I didn't know any different. It was a moment in time that worked, I guess


  14. Anonymous on said:

    Off the topic but just wanted your thoughts. After several e-mails from Shadow Lane I joined after a long absence. I was a member for years and now I don't recognize the site. Leaves me cold and I had many friends on the old site even went to a party in California and met many of them. What a disappointment .. do you hear from Eve and Tony anymore? Bob (The Grinch)


  15. Bob/Grinch — I'm friends with them on FetLife, and we follow each other on Twitter. And I see them once a year at the Shadow Lane party. The site was recently overhauled and updated, and I haven't looked at it much, except to take a peek at my Model blurb. I'm referred to as a “cougar” in it, which is a bit annoying, but you know, whatever. πŸ™‚


  16. Anonymous on said:

    Time marches on I suppose don't know what I was expecting. The bulletin board was a lot of fun to read and comment. Chat was very cool and it was fun meeting and playing with the ladies at the parties after chatting for months. It was unique and enjoyable. Now cold and austere but you know, whatever. 😦 Bob


  17. No aftercare is such bs……..


  18. Ron — he didn't know any better. It's OK.


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