The good, the bad, and the @#$%ing insane
I’ve been quiet for a few days; haven’t had much to say, really. Christmas came and went, I had a cold, things were quiet. I’m feeling a bit better and am heading back to the gym this morning for the first time in a week. Planning on seeing Steve tomorrow. All good stuff.
I could write for the next hour about what went down in the past four days, but I’ll encapsulate the “bad and the @#$%ing insane” into two words: John’s sisters.
The madness that I predicted over the tangible goods in John’s mother’s estate erupted in a big way this week, with a series of events and fights that were ugly and melodramatic. I can’t go into the details, because once I do, it will spiral into a bigger and bigger mess of details, and I really don’t want to do that here. Suffice it to say that it’s come down to a sharp and deep chasm, with John’s sisters, his brother-in-law, and his niece and her husband on one side, and John, his brother and sister-in-law on the other.
It’s as if removing the mother from the picture, took away the last bastion of pseudo-civility with this family; specifically, the sisters. Now it’s become a free-for-all and all the hostilities are out in the open. As well as the greed and the selfishness. True colors were seen, and cannot be unseen.
“Family” should be a four-letter word.
Who knows… maybe this will all blow over, and they’ll go back to pretending. But I think John’s eyes have been forever forced open. And if anything good can come of this mess, it will be that we can finally be rid of his sisters, and he will grow closer with his brother and sis-in-law, who have turned out to be the only other sane ones in the bunch. After 18 1/2 years of my putting up with the whole effed-up bunch, it would be sweet relief to finally have it pared down to one manageable couple.
Poor John. However, don’t feel too bad. Underneath all the stress and pain, I do believe he’s feeling a sense of relief. He told me at one point this weekend: “I feel like I’m just starting to wake up from a nightmare.” And on Saturday night, for the first time in I don’t know how long, he slept straight through the night.
And last night on the phone, in the midst of the insanity, his brother told me that when it comes time for John’s surgery, he and his wife will be there for us for support and whatever else we need. Far cry from John’s eldest sister, who said, “I don’t believe Johnny has a heart condition. He’s making it up.”
Anyway. I hope to get back to some fun soon, kids. It’s been a really messed-up couple of weeks. I hope to have some fun on-topic stuff soon. But in the meantime, thanks for sticking around. For everyone whose holiday season wasn’t all sugarplums, hang in there. And for those who did have fun, who were with loved ones who treated you well, awesome. Because life really is too short to waste even a minute with people who suck the very marrow out of your bones.