Erica Scott: Life, Love and Spanking

Ruminations, opinionated observations, darkly humorous blathering and the occasional rant from an outspoken spanko and unapologetic attention wh–, um, hog.

Sorry/not sorry for having a voice

Yesterday, I reactivated my FetLife account. For the most part, it was a positive experience; got a lot of welcome back comments and messages, and some new friend requests. But of course, the peanut gallery had to pipe up as well.

Before the 50 Freaks party in February, I had posted a video on FL of Steve giving me a pre-party “warm-up.” I was in full sass mode for this one (what a surprise), and we had a lot of banter. I got mostly positive feedback on it, with the exception of these two comments:

gag her. she’s annoying


What a nice ass! But I agree about gagging her.

Well, nuts to both of you. At the time, I posted this in reply:

Some people, including my beloved top, like me just the way I am, mouth and all. So, with all due respect, up yours.

Then yesterday, the same video got this gem:

Vids have great potential, however, the chit-chat is very annoying. Hard to watch!

Then don’t watch, stupid. It’s really that simple.

Checked out this commenter’s profile. He identifies as an “alpha male” — in otherΒ words, he has a small dick. πŸ™‚ And just before commenting on my video, he had clicked “Love” on a video posted by a guy who’s well known for beating the ever-loving sh*t out of women’s bottoms. Figures!

Oooh, he thinks my videos have great potential! Maybe I should try doing them professionally. huh? Oh, wait. I’ve been doing that for fifteen years.

Geez, people. I get it that my style isn’t everyone’s cup of kink. I know some people think I talk too much, sass too much, interact with the top too much. You’re certainly entitled to your preferences. As am I. I would prefer that if you don’t like my stuff, you move on and watch something you do like. Because I’m not interested in your critiques.

I have a rep that precedes me; people pretty much know what they’re going to get when they watch me. And some people enjoy my feistiness. They like a little challenge from a bottom. They know I can take what I dish out. They appreciate the dynamics between me and my top(s). For these folks, I am very grateful, and I will continue to entertain you for as long as you want me to. πŸ™‚

As for the critics who wish to silence me:

Erica's Helpful Hints -- the Monday edition

(OK, so this is an old photo, as evidenced by the old-time monitor, the fax machine, and the fact that I’m hiding the lower portion of my face. But the message remains current!)

Have a great weekend, y’all.

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17 thoughts on “Sorry/not sorry for having a voice

  1. Ha! I actually enjoy watching your videos because it is so different from how I behave. The one you did for Pandora Blake where you tore up your “husband’s” work papers to make him pay attention to you had me fascinated mainly because I wouldn’t even have imagined doing such a thing! But I think it was even more attractive to me because it was something outside of my own experience.
    Anyway, I enjoy your sass! And I think ALL of us that do erotic work (even though I am pretty new) are just sick of the peanut gallery. There are like, a million different videos out there catering to EVERY taste and if you don’t like one you should move on.


  2. I record some of the sessions I have with G., and the play ones tend to be funny as hell. I have one from two years ago where he started singing and dancing while he was spanking me, and we both ended up laughing our asses off! I have other ones where we end up doing a back and forth that cracks me up years later when I watch them. It’s how we are. The only serious sessions are punishment ones, and there aren’t that many of those, unless I’m looking for that for emotional release reasons. We have a great time, and if some alpha males can’t handle that, they need to go back to learning how to be a Top, because G. is alpha male but understands that he only has to be serious when the situation calls for it.


  3. LilithNoir — thanks! πŸ™‚ I’ll tell you the truth, though — in reality, I would never tear up someone’s work papers! That crosses the line from provocative to destructive. But it made for a fun video premise!

    Jen — I should clarify something. I’m not saying all alpha males have small dicks… just the ones who feel the need to make a big public announcement about it. πŸ˜‰ In my experience, the strongest of men have a quiet confidence about it, not a bravado.


    • Oh, I know you weren’t making a blanket statement, which is why I was saying those other idiots need to take lessons, probably from G. πŸ™‚ He may be an alpha male, but the only problem I ever have with that is when he insists on being in charge of the remote when I visit him! LOL


  4. And this is the perfect example of why I tend to avoid Fetlife. I just don’t understand the need for negativity; just don’t comment. As we all know there are plenty of videos for all tastes out there; so if you don’t like something you just move on, seems simple and uncomplicated.
    Curious though if they would have rephrased the comments, for example to “Vids have great potential, however, the chit-chat is very annoying. Hard to watch!…LOL/HaHa” if that would have made it different for you and not offended?


  5. Michael Donovan on said:

    I prefer outspoken women who like big …


  6. Enzo — hmmm. Would depend on if I knew them or not. If I knew they liked me and were just yanking my chain, I wouldn’t be offended. But from a stranger, that would simply seem like a passive-aggressive version of the original.

    Michael — why am I not surprised? πŸ˜‰


    • Yes, but they obviously like enough of what they did see to stop, watch and comment.
      Not defending these guys or their comments, but simply referencing the fact that it often hard to pickup tone and intent from comments/text and email.


  7. Bobbie Jo on said:

    Yes! I wonder about which idiot you are referring to who is known for beating up the gals. I can think of a few of them. Anyway, I saw a card once that said this: “There is nothing so strong as gentleness; nothing so gentle as real strength.” The pic on the front was of a very strong looking farmer holding a little bird in his hands very gently. The uber-dom/me stuff and bragging about being an alpha male, or female for that matter, is pure nonsense.


  8. MrJ on said:

    It remains amazing. And your pedagogical tools are just great. ;-))


  9. MrJ — now there’s a million-dollar word! πŸ™‚ I’m proud that I knew what it meant.


  10. Hi Erica — I always Love your videos πŸ™‚ I enjoy you being feisty, Your videos are unique, I like everything about your videos πŸ™‚ You are very entertaining and you make me giggle πŸ™‚ Some of the things you do in your videos, reminds me so much of me because I would act the same way πŸ™‚ The IDIOT’S that say negative things about your videos, don’t have anything better to do with their pathetic lives.They get off on judging others.I think they are jealous. You my friend are AWESOME πŸ™‚ That pic of you giving the middle finger is PRICELESS πŸ™‚ LMAO it’s the bomb,even though no one can see me do it, I give them 2 middle fingers LOL πŸ˜‰ I see the Orange kitty cat beanie baby I gave you a few years ago in the pic πŸ™‚ Wishing you and John a GREAT weekend πŸ™‚ Much Love and hugs from naughty girl Jade/ Emily Jean


  11. Jade — ha! good eye. πŸ™‚


  12. It could be that these men are less verbose and feel they would be competing and losing. It could be that they feel they must be in complete control and can brook no back and forth.

    If the woman I am spanking is not talking, my interest in continuing will drop off quickly.


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