Erica Scott: Life, Love and Spanking

Ruminations, opinionated observations, darkly humorous blathering and the occasional rant from an outspoken spanko and unapologetic attention wh–, um, hog.

Got questions?


Apparently March is Questions and Answers month in the blogosphere. Here’s where my readers get to ask me any questions they may have, and I will do my best to answer them. I do reserve the right to refuse to answer anything overly personal, but you guys know I’m pretty much an open book. So ask away.

And in the same vein, I have a question for you. What would you guys like to see here? See more of, see less of, see period? (I’m sure some wise guy will say “nudes,” but I will cheerfully ignore that. 😉 ) I know you’re out there; you just voted me 2nd place Creative Blogger, after all. But views/comments are way down and have been for some time. What would spark your interest again? I hate to bring up topics that have been discussed to death, but who knows, maybe some newer people would like to chime in on them.

You know what happens to attention hogs when they don’t get responses and feedback, right? They get very, very sad.


You don’t want that on your conscience, do you?? Of course you don’t.

Have a great weekend, y’all. Oh, and…


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33 thoughts on “Got questions?

  1. Anonymous on said:

    Hi Erica ♡ whoever put the letters on the sign don’t know how to spell clock. You are too funny LOL 🙂 I am not going anywhere I will always read and comment on your blog. Anything you want to write about is fine with me 😉 So I think everyone should read your blog because I don’t want you to be sad it makes me sad to see you that way 😦 My question for you is which spanking video that you made is your favorite? Wishing you and John a Lovely weekend. Much Love and hugs from naughty girl Jade / Emily Jean xxxxx ♡


  2. Anonymous on said:

    Questions…hmm…this is hard! 🙂 It seems like most your spankings are “funishment” or part of role playing (with complete respect for what you can take). Have you had many spankings where you felt that you needed it to atone for something in a more serious way? That you were sorry about something and that a spanking would help to relieve guilt?


  3. Anonymous on said:

    Hello Erica, I would love to know if you have any upcoming work with Spanking Epics? They are back in business I have heard and their dvd’s with you are my favorite. The blog is also great(love the pictures) and wit. Hope to get to one of those parties someday to meet you in person. Gary


  4. Jade — that’s a very good question and hard to answer. I have many favorites for various reasons. But I guess if I had to choose one, it would be “When Danny Met Erica,” with Danny Chrighton. That was our baby, start to finish, and it’s my most personal video with a real-life play partner I adored (still do, even though I have not seen him in several years).

    Anonymous — not too many, no. It’s hard for me to get into that head space, unless the top is very serious and is able to tap into my emotions. Life is too short for guilt, unless you’ve killed or deliberately hurt someone, so I don’t succumb to it very often. One of my most intense scenes was when a former top took me to task for meeting up with another top in my apartment without vetting him first. Of course it turned out fine, but it was still not the safest thing in the world to do.

    Gary — I have not heard from them, but you know, it’s OK. I was lucky enough to shoot five full-length videos and three “spanklets” with them, and have some amazing adventures, ten years ago. I will never forget them.


  5. What do you think men get out of spanking you? I see lots of discussion of the bottom’s emotional side, but almost none of the top. They seem embarrassed to talk about it. I’m sure you have considered opinions.


  6. Mark — from what I’ve gathered by talking to various tops, including my current one, there are physical and psychological components to their enjoyment. On the purely physical level, they like the sights, the sounds, the redness, the feel of the skin. But on the emotional/psychological side, I think tops love the trust that’s being granted to them, the way the bottoms put themselves in their hands. The bottom has the power, and yet she’s submitting it to the top. It’s an amazing dynamic.


    • Thanks. I’ve thought about this awhile.

      I like your word “trust” for this much better than “submission.” That clarifies something important from the top’s view.

      To illustrate what the difference you suggest means to me, one could sometimes force her submission by bullying and frightening a woman. That would entirely lack the essential thrill. So what? I’m bigger and stronger. We know that. I’m also mean? It misses the whole point somehow.

      With trust, even “forcing” has an entirely different tone during and feeling after.

      Many times when people say submission they really mean the trust part.


  7. anonymous on said:

    I assure you I care about your feelings. I’ve been more of a reader than a commentor these last few months because I’ve undergone MANY changes in my life and my spanking desire is in the less desired mindset at present time.
    It’s weird that I THINK about it in SOME form on a daily basis sort of like sex, but I can and have gone for very long durations without desiring or partaking in either experience.


  8. Anonymous on said:

    NUDES! ( oh wait, never mind)


  9. A. — actually, you do comment regularly, and I appreciate it! 🙂 I know the desire/interest can wane sometimes.

    A.2 — HA! See, I knew it. 😉


  10. Post more of those posts who ask stupid
    Stupid Questions.


  11. Bob — ha! I would, but I’m not getting as many of them these days. I think they’re onto me. 🙂


  12. Although not exactly spanking related, I have always enjoyed reading about some of your experiences growing up, or memories of life with your dad and his peers, or interactions with your step-mom (who gave you the beautiful single pearl necklace), things along those lines. Not sure if there are still things left you feel comfortable sharing with us, but those are great insights into the real you. It helps us know Erica, the person, who is every bit as interesting as Erica, the epic spanking model and icon.


  13. Graham on said:

    ok a question for you Erica,how old was you when you got your first spanking?


  14. Erica, is their one, memorable spanking in your life long endeavor of spanking adventures that stands out. Also which spanking movie or video, you would consider the finest you ever made. XXX Luv ya.


  15. Hi Erica,

    After having visited your blogs, read your books, watched several of your excellent professional videos, and talked with you on a number of occasions, I think you’ve already answered most of my questions. However, there is one point that might benefit from a little clarification. Spankings for you are sexual, and yet, they are also not sexual. Is this duality solely a product of the relationships you’ve developed? Was it a conscious choice? Or is it intrinsic to you?

    Did you hear that actor who portrays The Most Interesting Man in the World on the Dos Equis commercials is retiring? They are searching for a replacement. I think they need to select a woman this time and you would be my nomination.

    Erica Scott is the most interesting woman in the world. Her bottom once split a hairbrush before the spanking began. Her barbs are so well crafted that tops thank her for insulting them. Her spanking blog attracts readers who aren’t even spankos. She is the most interesting woman in the world.



  16. Pam — that is very sweet; thank you. ♥ It makes me feel good that people want to know about all that other stuff. It’s funny — there are things I would so love to share about my father, stepmother, etc., but I’m so careful about revealing their identity. Maybe after everyone in my family who is famous has passed on (which I’m not looking forward to), I will come clean. We’ll see.

    Graham — I was 38. Memorial Day, 1996.

    Six — I really couldn’t say. I have been lucky enough to have many spankings that are memorable over the past 20 years, for many different reasons and with different partners. Same with the videos — it’s hard to single out just one, since they all mean something to me in their own way.

    Bonnie — geez, woman, I love you. 🙂

    As for the sexual/not sexual nature of my spankings — I think it’s intrinsic, but it also happens to work well with my relationships. Early on, I learned that spanking and sex were often combined, but just as often not. Back in the days of the So. CA Spanking Wives group, Becca said she considered spanking and sex to be like chocolate cake and pecan pie — her two favorite desserts, but she didn’t want them together. I took that and came up with my own cake-and-ice-cream analogy — both delicious, and great either combined or separate. Me, I just happen to like my cake separated from my ice cream. I do find spankings incredibly arousing, but somehow, I achieve an emotional release that is just as gratifying as a physically sexual one.


  17. I still really, really miss the days of So. CA Spanked Wives and Girlfriends. There was such a feeling of comraderie, interaction, and humorous sharing mingled with more serious topics. So many wonderful people commented there on a regular basis. For years after it was inactive I would still go back and spend hours happily reading through various threads. I think that was where we first met. Can’t even remember how long ago that was. Oh, the good old days. (Geez, just saying that makes a person feel old)!


    • Pam — I miss that group too. We had some great discussions and a whole lot of fun. If I’m recalling correctly, it started sometime near the end of 2000. That was the heyday of forums — but that’s a bygone era, sadly.


  18. (Sigh) I feel so disconnected…work got really busy and life decided to take me on a roller coaster, but I want to let you know that I am still here and keeping up with you!

    Here’s a random question – when did you take that photo of you under your About Me section? I think it’s my favorite picture of you! 🙂


  19. Jay — it’s always good to see you! 🙂 That’s an older shot — not sure, maybe 2006-7? I took it with my camera and timer.


  20. My question this time: how was your first time sharing with a third party your spanking experiences?


  21. MrJ — not sure what you mean… like telling a vanilla friend? Or discussing it with like-minded people for the first time when I discovered them?


    • The former, I mean – will reserve the latter for next year, now that you have mentioned it. 😉


      • Oh, gosh… I really can’t remember the first time I revealed to a vanilla friend. I haven’t done it that often. (I actually don’t have that many vanilla friends these days.) I don’t think I’ve ever gotten a negative response, but I’ve had a few bewildered ones.


  22. Anonymous on said:

    Hi, I would like to ask since you have experience on the topic. Is it normal to want discipline bare bottom spankings as a young adult. If so how would I come across a disciplinarian cause I’m sure it would be strange to ask my mom since I’m 21 years old. I guess it’s cause I was good at lying my way out of spankings when I was little and was never on my bare bottom so I barely felt it. So it’s like I got away with a lot even when I was punished and feel later in life in need of discipline.


  23. I’ve been busy this evening going back and making comments on several of your more recent blogs. I don’t want you to be sad! I’ve been pursuing my hobby lately which is finding vintage articles about spanking in old newspapers and such (I collect mainstream spanking trivia and memorabilia like other people collect stamps!). I’ve been sending along what I find to the Chicago Spanking Review, Richard Windsor, The Spank Statement (see his last two posts) and Chross. Also I’ve been busy writing and placing stories at the Library of Spanking Fiction. Not to mention that I’m in the middle of a move. Keep writing your terrific blog I promise to be a better commenter in the future.


  24. Anonymous — if I’m not mistaken, you posted this question to me under the “OT: My Family” post. I see you’re reposting it here, which is a good place for it, but I answered already on the other post. If you go to the comments there, you’ll see I wrote out an answer for you. 🙂

    Sweetspot — what a fun hobby! I’m sure Chross et al appreciate your help. And moving is all-consuming. So please don’t worry. I am actually very happy at how many people popped in to comment on this post. 🙂


  25. Anonymous on said:

    Your blog has been so well written that I don’t have any questions left. I do however feel that I can never thank you enough for taking the time to write and share your experiences.

    Anon E. Mouse


    • Mouse — thank you. 🙂 This is what I was afraid of, though… I’ve already said everything and there’s nothing left! (sigh) I’m just too verbose for my own good. But I’ll keep trying to come up with new stuff.


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