Erica Scott: Life, Love and Spanking

Ruminations, opinionated observations, darkly humorous blathering and the occasional rant from an outspoken spanko and unapologetic attention wh–, um, hog.

Finally, someone got it right

Ever read “Buzzfeed”? It’s best known for its lists, often things that are a bit inane. “25 uses for navel lint.” “15 ways you can tell whether your cat is a Republican or a Democrat.” “21 insanely useful skills an introvert has mastered.” (OK, that last one is real.) But this week, writer Casey Gueren posted a thoughtful, obviously well researched piece called “25 Facts About BDSM That You Won’t Learn in ‘Fifty Shades of Grey.'”

The title alone piqued my interest, so I went to take a look. (I found the link on Facebook, of all places.) What I ended up reading impressed me greatly. I don’t know if Casey Gueren is a fellow kinkster, but even if she isn’t, she did her homework and research way better than E.L Jackass did. Concise and well written, her piece hits the main points of the lifestyle, dispels the myths, and removes all the salacious BS.

I especially like #6.

6. Fifty Shades of Grey is considered very cringeworthy in the BDSM community.

If you ever find yourself at a BDSM meet-up or dungeon, don’t mention any shade of grey. While some people appreciate that the books spurred more interest in kink and may have made it less stigmatized, others take issue with the abusive, unhealthy relationship it portrays and the seriously unrealistic scenes. All in all, it is not an accurate representation of the BDSM community.

“Not an accurate representation.” Very tactful way of saying it’s a complete POS. 🙂

Obviously, there’s a lot more to know than what’s in this simple primer. But it’s a great start. And with so very many crappy misconceptions and poor writings out there on this vastly complex subject, it’s refreshing to find one that got it right. Brava, Casey Gueren.

In other news, I had a really weird dream last night, in which I was self-spanking and I broke several of my toys, including the oh-so-vile Strictly Lickin’ Stick. As if that thing could ever break! You’d have to throw it off the Empire State Building, and even then, it would probably just crack the sidewalk. Clearly, I am in need. There needs to be spanking in my future. Hopefully next week. And if not, then there is a small private party upcoming in July. Erica needs her itch scratched.

And finally, in an OT tidbit under the “It’s a Small World” heading, this week, I saw a meme on Facebook. It was an old black-and-white photo of a well-dressed, very attractive couple dancing. The caption was something along the lines of how taking a step backward after a step forward is a disaster to some and a cha-cha to others. The saying was cool, but that’s not what caught my attention. The woman in the picture was especially beautiful, exotic. And familiar.

It was my stepmother. (The nice one, the actress/dancer one. Not the Evil Bitch From Hell one.) 🙂 Like I said, small world.

Have a great weekend, y’all. And to all the fathers out there, or those who have one, Happy Father’s Day.

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10 thoughts on “Finally, someone got it right

  1. Thank you for the reading tip!
    I think I am seeing a spanking in your future. 😉


  2. MrJ — many, I hope!


  3. Anonymous on said:

    Ugh – not again 🙂

    “Forget Fifty Shades of Grey. Here’s your real primer on all things kink.”

    I think you’ll obviously have problems if you take FSOG as a *primer* on kink. Probably fact .5 should have read “Don’t take fictional writing and movies as realistic guides for how you should live your life without engaging your brain” although I’m pleased that at least in “Fact” 12 several good non-fiction references are given.

    If you’re like me, you probably cut your teeth on things like the Sleeping Beauty Trilogy (now Quartet) and newsgroup stories on nonconsensual spankings. Good grief – I bet if I went to Amazon right now and searched for “spanking” in books, that 80% of the results (fictional) would have only loosely consensual spanking (at best).

    Seriously, most of us wouldn’t consider copulating our sleeping princess awake, pulling our master’s carts, being whipped on the public turntable, paddled on the counter of the microbrewery, etc. without consent. But those things, unrealistic as they are, make for fine story. Heck, consider the spanking videos you’ve seen (others’): how many of those make the consensuality obvious, or is their appeal to many precisely that element of nonconsensuality?

    Anyway, I liked the article’s mostly non-judgmental explanation of BDSM, even if it capitalized on the FSOG bump 🙂


  4. Anonymous — yeah, I know. (sheepish) It never goes away. But I was so impressed with how well this writer was able to encapsulate things, so that newbies would have a proper springboard from which to discover more detailed information.

    Honestly? I read 1 1/2 of the Anne Rice Beauty books, and then stopped. I couldn’t stand them. But yeah, the fantasy of non-consensuality goes quite far in books and videos. Oftentimes, common sense should dictate what is real and what isn’t. But we all know how uncommon common sense is. (sigh)


  5. I checked with my kitty and it turns out he’s a DemoCAT, not Republican.


  6. Be — LOL! I guess it’s mostly dogs that are RePUPlicans. 😉


  7. Jadelyn Mathias on said:

    Hiya Erica ♡ E.L. Jackass HAHAHAHAHA LOL 😉 I can’t stop laughing. I definitely see many spankings in your future. I hope there are alot of spankings in my future as well 😉 I never watched all of Fifty Shades of Grey, just a few clips, But the review you gave about it before, I wasn’t missing much, It wasn’t that good. Much Love and hugs always from naughty girl Jade / Emily Jean xoxoxoxo ♡


  8. Jade — no, you didn’t miss anything. The clips were the best part, I think.


  9. jasnstir on said:

    You are adorable Erica! Your words alone make me want to read what Casey has to say about BDSM… another one of my favorite subjects 🙂 Thanks!
    I hope your July date serves it’s purpose and warms your buttocks properly.

    Looking forward to hanging with you at the end of the summer!
    xoxox to both you and John
    bWyatt (akaSAM)


  10. Sam — hey! Yes, we’ll definitely see you end of summer. Casey seems like she knew what she was talking about — or at the very least did some proper research.


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