Oh no, he didn’t
Hi kids. I’ve been quiet this week, very busy with work. Also, although Steve and I had our four-year anniversary of being play partners and friends this week, we did not get to see each other. He had a job interview on Tuesday, and the rest of the week, I was just so damn busy and stressed, I couldn’t carve out any decent time, or any decent head space, for that matter. So we are shooting for next Tuesday.
However, something happened this week that I think is worth a mention on here.
I am really trying to stay out of the political stuff, y’all. But it’s hard. It’s all over Twitter and Facebook, and we’ve had two conventions in two weeks. I confess, I didn’t watch a single minute of either one. Nor have I watched the evening news. I haven’t even been watching the late-night talk shows — no Jimmy (either one), no Conan, nothing. I’m just so damn tired of hearing about the election.
Still, I tweet and comment about it elsewhere. I can’t live in a bubble, much as I’d like to. The other night, I tweeted about how I’m not watching the convention, that I’ve been watching old TV shows and vintage game shows every night instead, because I need a break. And then I got a tweet back:
“You deserve a severe spanking if you watch the DNC!”
My insides seized up. I couldn’t believe someone went there.
I thought about replying to him, but first, I went to check out his profile. He followed me, I noticed. Why? Then I looked at some of his tweets. OK, he’s a spanko, that’s why. But then I looked at some of the other things he said — horrible, ugly, misogynistic things, rife with the c-word. Ugh. I don’t want this creep following me anyway, so I blocked him without saying anything to him.
However, I then tweeted a general message to anyone who might be watching, just in case:
“To the cretin who said I ‘deserve a severe spanking’ if I watch the DNC: I’ll watch what I damn well please, and get spanked when it suits me.”
I ran out of characters, so I tweeted again:
“Oh, and because I ran out of characters, I must add this: Please go fuck yourself. :-)”
My sexual proclivities and my politics are two separate entities, just like church and state are (or as they should be). Do. Not. Use my spanking fetish as a threat because you don’t like my politics. That is over the line. That is so far over the line that I can’t even see the line anymore.
You don’t like my political leanings/choices? That’s your right and your prerogative. But you do not get to drag spanking into it. That makes me sick. Don’t take what’s fun and sexy and delicious to me and turn it into something icky because you disagree with another core part of my being that’s none of your goddamn business in the first place. If you don’t like me, don’t follow me. Don’t friend me. It’s as simple as that.
A reminder before I post the following: This blog is not about who you’re going to vote for. This post is not about who is better than whom. I have my opinions about that, of course I do, but I’m not talking about that. Please don’t take it in that direction in the comments.
OK, so speaking of combining spanking and politics, I found this today: What do you guys think of it?
I’m sure everyone recognizes this as the old Chase & Sanborn coffee ad, from back in the day when sexist ads like this were common. Part of me giggled… and then another part of me cringed. This is making fun of what we do. This is taking our fetish and making it look like something creepy, something that bullies and chauvinists and misogynists do to keep their “little women” in line.
Am I taking this too seriously? Or as spankos, does it squick you, too? I’m like, “EW! Leave spanking out of this!” Thoughts?
All right, enough of this. I have to get back to work.
Have a great weekend, y’all. To my friends at the Crimson Moon party in Chicago, have a blast! I can’t wait until I can party with you over Labor Day weekend.
It squicks me for more reasons than just that they make it look like they can do what they want because they’re the men. I can’t look at Trump. He gives me the willies!
Q — well, I don’t really want to go there, here. But besides that, I don’t want to see something I enjoy get twisted like that. It doesn’t feel right.
I read the spanking ad three times and I still don’t get it.
I do not mix my spanking with my politics. Your post was right on.
Craig — the implication in this spoof ad is that conservative men are using spanking to coerce their wives into voting for Trump, and Trump approves.
Robert — thanks.
My sense of humor is so cynical and jaded that I’m not offended by the caption. But that doesn’t mean I love it or agree with the message. I think I’m I am remarkably silent on Facebook when it comes to the candidate hate fests lobbed at both nominees.
A. — I try to be silent. I tell myself every day I’m going to stay out of it. And I’m better… but still, I get sucked in. (sigh)
Totally inappropriate! I have my views and this add has no place in the political arena regardless of personal preference for one candidate or another. Besides that, I don’t like the way our spanking proclivities are represented in it. Just-plain-not- cool!
Have a good weekend away from all the argle bargle!
Bobbie Jo — yup, those are my thoughts as well.
Awww, I’m so sorry Tuesday (and last week) didn’t work out. But I guess there is always next week. Have fun!!!
I think you’re taking it too seriously. I use spanking in every context. But that’s only my opinion.
KB — I hope to do so.
Happy — no worries. Agreeing with me is optional! 🙂
Politics aside, to be honest I looked at: http://nypost.com/2016/08/01/melania-trumps-girl-on-girl-photos-from-racy-shoot-revealed/ and thought if, as the article says, the model “raises a whip as if preparing to spank Melania” that there’s a serious technique problem here if the bottom is the target. OTOH, I’m a “close implement” kinda guy, so this is a little outside my expertise 🙂
Once again well said. I hate politics but this one is fascinating disturbing and I guess confusing. Can’t believe we are where we are.
But yes has nothing to do with our beloved kink. Thanks
Anonymous — yeah, that’s pretty far-fetched. And who DIDN’T look at that article? 😉
Ron — I can’t either.
I like that ad because she looks to me like she’s having fun, and she’s cute.
As for politics, that comment is about the same as a threat of rape if you don’t take the right side.
Kink is sex. With or without the other parts of sex, it is very personal, intimate. It is amazing someone could be a spanko, as you say he is, and not know that internalized on a very basic level. What does he think he’s doing?
Mark — I have no idea what he’s thinking. It’s probably something I’d rather not know.
I liked the original ad that picture was used in. I just don’t like how it’s being used here.
Regarding the photos of Melania linked here, and some others of her on furs wearing handcuffs, I’m not sure that is good politics, but I like it.
I like it that she was willing, and seems brave enough, accepting enough, to experiment with it. Whether or not that is what she likes (which is none of our business unless she offers) it is nice to think of the acceptance.
Really, would the alternative attitude be better?
Mark — honestly, I couldn’t care less how and where Melania posed in her past. I do, however, think it’s mind-boggling how hypocritical a certain party is. When Michelle Obama wore sleeveless dresses, they made a huge flap about her bare arms and how inappropriate they were. But Melania’s antics are okay?
The flap about Michelle Obama’s arms was plain stupid. “Stupid” hardly does it justice, but I’ll leave it there so as not to dive into politics.
However, for the same people who so rightly defended Michelle to now sound off attacking Melania for doing what a model does offends me. This is not just a sophomoric chant of “hypocrisy.” Freedom to do that sort of thing is important to me.
It was her work, and she was good at it, going from a Yugoslavian backwater to Milan, Paris, and NYC. Maybe she was not a “top supermodel” but she found paying work in difficult markets and did rather well, moving up the ladder.
I don’t like her husband as a person, again leave out politics, but that does not justify this sort of thing. Attack her husband, but this at her is cheap shots.
Besides, she showed more acceptance of my interests than many do, and I appreciate that. I’d enjoy attending a dinner party including her, if her husband stayed away.
Hypocrisy and meanness are the stock in trade of certain people.
Those people must be avoided.
Anon E. Mouse
Mark — my issues with Melania have nothing to do with her modeling, so I’m in agreement with you there.
Mouse — YES.