Erica Scott: Life, Love and Spanking

Ruminations, opinionated observations, darkly humorous blathering and the occasional rant from an outspoken spanko and unapologetic attention wh–, um, hog.

Finally, something to post!

Sorry to have been MIA for a while. Even after I tested negative for COVID, I had a crappy couple of weeks with lingering symptoms — relentless cough, body aches, and then, my poor overactive and stressed immune system did its usual thing and broke me out in hives. So much fun! Oh, and car problems on top of all that. Essentially, the past few weeks, it’s been all about work and recovery, and little else. I spent my birthday in isolation. So for those who were asking me about birthday spankings — sorry. No way. Not this year. But not to worry. I still had a nice birthday. Flowers, cake, gifts, texts, cards, and other greetings kept rolling in all that day and I was overwhelmed with love. ♥

So now, I’m finally starting to feel somewhat normal. I really don’t recommend this COVID thing, y’all. I mean, I didn’t even have to deal with shortness of breath or loss of taste/smell, but it was not fun. And it does tend to linger on even after you test negative. People kept telling me it was okay, I’d be okay, this is all normal stuff, but of course, I was nervous about long COVID, since that is so random. But now I think I’m okay. And even getting a bit of my spanking mojo back. COVID knocked all the desire out of me.

And just in time, my video with Jillian came out yesterday. So far, the feedback has been very good. We had chatted on and on for well over a half hour, but the final product clocks in at just under twenty-one minutes. Probably just as well, since people have such short attention spans these days. (Too Long: Didn’t Watch.) Of course, I have my usual mixed feelings about seeing myself on video. I make derpy faces when I’m listening, it seems. I widen my eyes and look like I’ve just been Botoxed. But hey, that fits in with the video subject (Aging in the Spanko Scene), so what the hell. (laughing) Considering I did not know what she was going to ask me and I had to answer everything off the cuff (we had agreed beforehand to do it this way, for a more spontaneous feel), I think I did a pretty decent job of it. I do wish I could have said even more — there really is so much to say on this subject, and I feel like we just scratched the surface. But hopefully I made some good points. Most important, I hope I convinced some people that we all have validity in this scene, at all ages, and these desires should be pursued and enjoyed without shame. Live life now.

WARNING: Controversial statement ahead. (I saw this disclaimer on one of Jillian’s videos and decided to borrow it.)

Getting older is not for the faint of heart. It’s damn hard. Yes, there are advantages. But I’m not going to sugarcoat any of it. The clichés like “Age is just a number” drive me up the wall. It isn’t. “You’re only as old as you feel.” Well, some days, I feel pretty damned old. And then there is this one, which sounds right, but it gets my back up for very personal reasons: “Getting old isn’t that bad when you consider the alternative.”

Um… yeah. Sometimes, it is. Because it’s not the years in your life, it’s the life in your years. Quality over quantity. Sometimes, the alternative is a blessing. It certainly would have been for my mother, who lost her mind, her dignity and her independence from dementia at age 84, but whose existence dragged on for another six years. Living longer doesn’t matter a damn if that life has no quality. You may be assured that you’ll have more years these days because of longer life spans, but you are not guaranteed health. Yet another reason to live your life as best you can now, and don’t wait to fulfill your fantasies and dreams. Because you never know.

*end rant*

Jillian, I don’t know if you’re reading this, but thank you. I admire you so very much, and I appreciate all you do for our scene. *big cyber hugs*

Have a great weekend, y’all. ♥

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21 thoughts on “Finally, something to post!

  1. I look forward to viewing the video that you and Jillian produced (as the two of you are among the few people whom I truly do admire), particularly since it applies to me in two important ways — I’m a lifelong spanko and I’m considerably older than both of you! Also, I’m glad that you are finally beginning to feel as though COVID is behind you. I got my third booster last week and am probably going to get a flu shot soon as I’m hearing some pretty dire warnings about this year’s flu strain being particularly bad. Glad to see you posting again! Stay well and be safe.


  2. Jenny Bell on said:

    Hi! Erica, yes I agree with you about quality of life, it’s dreadful how the medical profession just try to keep people alive even though they are suffering. I will watch Jillian’s video. Bye for now, Jenny.


  3. Bob — I hope you like it! Yes, get the flu shot. I just got mine last week.

    Jenny — that is a subject I take very personally. No one should have to come to the end of life the way some people are forced to do.


  4. Michael Elwood on said:

    Erica you have been a great blessing. My shadow self had a difficult time birthing my paraphilia/spanking. You helped tremendously


  5. I don’t like aging, either. It takes up too much of my time. But it hasn’t curbed my interest in spanking. All it’s done there is make more girls look young.


  6. I watched the video last night and enjoyed it very much. You are right, ageing does change things, after three operations on the right one, there is no way I can do a position kneeling on a hard surface any more. But also yes, do what you can while you still can, I will follow that advice.



  7. Michael — I’m so glad.

    Rich — yeah, it kinda sucks, doesn’t it.

    Prefectdt — I can’t arch my back as deeply as I used to. It just won’t go that way anymore!


  8. Hi Erica. I checked out the Jillian Keenan Youtube video. Great job!

    I didn’t know until very recently that Jillian Keenan had a Youtube channel. I enjoyed her Sex With Shakespeare book a lot. Her spanking history and what drives her is probably different from my dynamic (she’s been a spanko or had spanko feelings since she was a child; I didn’t discover it until I was well into my 30s), but her book definitely helped me understand the early drive a lot better.

    Kudos to you both for being so “out” as spankos. I am not there yet, and not sure I ever will be, but I appreciate those of you who have been brave enough to do it.

    I don’t think aging has had a huge impact (no pun intended) on the spanking/domestic discipline part of my life. But, it certainly changes some other stuff. I’m fighting it tooth and nail, but all the physical stuff gets just a little bit harder, and my resilience gets a little less resilient every few years.


  9. Glad you are getting better, Erica. I will watch the video as I admire both of you. Aging isn’t fun, for sure, although I do not discriminate when spanking based on age of spankee. LOL.


  10. I loved the video, and will be sure to watch Jillian’s other videos too.
    The best thing about the video was seeing you. It’s a sad fact that most bloggers never reveal themselves in any way, and all we have are imaginary mental images of them. I feel like I have met you now.

    I’m glad you have recovered from covid. We have had five shots now, but still wear masks and avoid crowds and restaurants.



  11. Dan — thank you! Jillian is even braver than I am. I mean, she outed herself in the New York Times, and with her real name! I have always found that mind-boggling. I appreciate that she wanted to do this with me.

    Bob — I hope you will like it.

    Hermione — thank you! Yup, that’s me, off-center nose and all. (I swear, that’s all I see when I look at footage of myself.) I try to imagine you, but tis true, all I see is Emma Watson. smiling

    Yeah, COVID isn’t over by a long shot. I will get that bivalent booster soon.


  12. It was great, Erica. You always are.

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  13. KDPierre on said:

    Two good points: aging and outing. I can relate to both.

    I knew I was different from a very early age and back then was quite scared to have anyone find out. (Every book at the time listed what I enjoyed as something of a disorder or dysfunction.) But at one point, at around 19 I decided that I was sick of hiding and took an active part in making kink an integral part of my life.

    So I told my girlfriend at the time and then ‘came out’ to others as well. The weird thing was that the world didn’t come crashing down, but instead just got more interesting. And while I never went ‘pro’ or ever joined “the scene”, I wrote for Adam& Jillian’s, did cartoons for them and others, drew illustrations, and even made my own implements, and kinky knick-knacks.

    Eventually with Rosa this ‘being out’ went full bore! And it’s been great!
    Over time I incorporated kink and spanking in every relationship I had. Switched at times, used spanking as sexy fun, as adult non-sexual fun, and yes, even as genuine punishment for behavior. I had a blog, published stories at the LSF, and generally lived a full-immersive kink lifestyle for nearly 40+ years! I have engaged in just about every kink I ever had a passing interest in, at least once.

    But, those years take a toll. Aging takes away one’s flexibility, and even one’s drive. I currently have deteriorated discs, arthritis, hypertension, ringing in my ears, etc. etc……….oh, and battled with different degrees of ED for all of my adult life. It’s been a ride, and a rough one at times, but………I’M NOT DONE. I will only go kicking and screaming into that ‘good night’. Hell, if they end up able to program consciousness into an artificial vessel, I’m going to be at the head of the line!

    But everything is a balance. I love being a grandfather, but how could I experience this at 20? Impossible. Age is a challenge, but it’s also a trade-off. And in the human experience you can’t have everything at once. Each positive comes at a cost, and life experience is probably the greatest positive of all, but it costs time……..and time takes a toll on everything.

    Anyway, it’s funny to me that after contributing to the community in so many ways for so long, that I have never been sought out for my opinions, observations, or anything. High profile people, professionals in certain fields, and celebrities, seem to be the only people of interest these days. Plus I suppose I’m just not perky or pretty enough for today’s audiences either. LOL I used to feel I had a voice with my blog, but that is gone too. Unfairly ripped away for no good reason. But when I think about it honestly, did that even matter? I mean, how many people even saw it, and of those how many ever participated? And here’s a good one: how many even miss it? Very demoralizing if you ask me, to have a voice, but then realize hardly anyone is listening.

    So aging and eventual mortality has a morbid upside: it puts an end to the bad things in life along with the good.

    (BTW, just came back from France and Spain with Rosa…our first time in Europe….and it was great! But…..we too ended up with Covid, although considering how Covid Round 1 nearly killed me, I was shocked by how mild this bout was. If it had not been for my daughter’s recommendation to take the test, I would have just written it off as a seasonal cold. Good to see you back!)


  14. KD — as always, I am happy to see you comment. I appreciate the time and thought you put into it and you always make me think. FWIW, I liked your blog. You told it like it is, unflinchingly, and not many people do that. And sadly, not many people can handle the truth, which is probably why it was taken down. I’m sorry.

    But yeah. Attention spans are short, and people are always after what’s new and shiny. Sometimes I’m amazed that there are some people who are still interested in what I have to say.

    And I’m sure you know that I envy you, making your decision to explore and embrace the kink lifestyle at 19. I waited until I was twice that age, and it’s always been one of my biggest regrets. However… better late than never.


  15. Michael Elwood on said:

    Are you a fellow Libra Erica? I turned 67 yesterday, the 17th. I love your rant so much. I’ve told you before I think you are such a gifted individual. Wikit smart. as was said in Good Will Hunting. Thank you for sharing yourself with honesty and courage. You will always remain my # 1 spanking actress and snark


  16. Erica, I watched the video over at Hermone’s blog, It was great, really enjoyed it. Was lovely to see and hear you.

    Happy to hear you have recovered from Covid.



  17. It took me a while to get around to watching the video, but I’m glad I did. You did a great job, Erica. You offered some great insight and had an inspiring message to share.

    While listening to the video I initially interpreted the comment “People grow older, unless they don’t,” as a third possibility: That most of us mature over time, but some people just never “grow up”. You were more straight forward and literal than that, but I guess we all find insight in simple truths.


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