Erica Scott: Life, Love and Spanking

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Oh, those swoon-worthy phrases…

You all know what I mean. Those spanking-related phrases that push our buttons; we’ve talked about them a lot, so that’s not what this post is about. It’s about a particular instance of one that shot my nerve endings into overdrive.

As a proofreader/copyeditor, I don’t choose what I work on. I read what’s given to me and I make it as perfect as I can. In my thirty-five years of doing this, I’ve read quite the spectrum of subject matter. And lucky me, I seem to have found my niche lately: spanking/fetish erotica. I work on a whole lot of that. Therefore, I see a broad range of kink and types of play. Some of it resonates. Some of it doesn’t. We’re all so different.

But every now and then, I read something that slams into my kinky reflexes so hard, I squirm in my desk chair. I don’t want to seem like I’m playing favorites, so I am not going to reveal the author or the book, just quote a snippet.

The hero has just ordered the heroine to lie on the bed for a punishment:

Her: I don’t want to.
Him: I didn’t ask if you want to. I told you to do it. NOW.

I can’t explain why any more than I can explain any of this kink stuff, but that little bit right there got me so hot and bothered, I had to take a work break, if you get my drift. (I know, I know, TMI. But hey, just one more of the joys of working at home.) 😀

Now, from the sublime to the ridiculous, a few search phrases I found for my blog.

how spanking models work

Hard, honey. Really hard.

my parents left and this guy from school spanked me

Well, good for you. And I’m supposed to do exactly what with this information?

spanking sarah bright pics

I am not Sarah Bright. I look nothing like Sarah Bright. Sarah Bright is a top. Why does Google delude this poor hapless searcher by directing them to my blog?

speeding in my house earns you a spanking

You must have one hell of a huge house to be able to drive a car in it.

braces pigtails bows pajamas spanking

OK… aside from the obvious last word, how the @#$% does any of this lead to me?? I haven’t worn pigtails since I was twelve and I got my braces off when I was thirteen. I’ve never worn bows; not that I can recall, anyway. Pajamas? Yes, I wear those. I don’t think I’ve ever been spanked in them, though. So what was this person doing, just throwing out a bunch of Little terms to see what came up? Sure must have been disappointed when he/she saw me!

Anyway. Back to work for me, and then off to John’s. I think we’re going to have a more peaceful weekend than the last one was. Last Friday, John’s refrigerator, garage door opener, and one of his crowns all broke. We spent the weekend buying ice and putting buckets of it in the fridge to keep the food cold. He managed to fix the garage door himself. And he was able to get emergency appointments for both the tooth and the fridge on Monday, taking half a day off. Whew. So if this weekend is uneventful, neither one of us will complain.

Have a great weekend, y’all. And to my American friends, please have a safe and happy July 4th. EDIT: Also to my up North pals, happy Canada Day!

The phrases that soothe

Much has been written about spanking “buzz phrases” by many, including myself. We all know about those words and phrases that electrify, that stop us dead in our tracks, set our hearts pounding and our stomachs lurching…the scolding, the threats, the warnings and promises.

I was thinking about this — words before and during the spanking are well covered. But I can’t recall if anyone has written about what we bottoms like to hear afterward.

Anyone who knows me, knows how I feel about aftercare. It is essential; as important a component of a good spanking scene as technique, chemistry, implement selection or anything else. Of course, aftercare means different things to different players. For some, it’s sexual, which is lovely. Because I tend to be a hard player and immerse myself emotionally in a scene, my particular preference in aftercare is tenderness. My hard outer shell has been cracked off and my vulnerability exposed. The treatment I receive, in those minutes right after the spanking concludes, contains tremendous power. It can either put me back together again or crush me.

Being held and caressed, tenderly soothed, doesn’t just feel good physically, it’s reassuring emotionally. It makes us feel loved and forgiven. We took what we were given and we took it well. It’s time for kindness.

What do you like to hear your top say during this time?

Perhaps some prefer silence, and that’s OK too. I like that as well. But I do love to hear my top’s voice. Quiet, kind, his words stilling my turmoil.

It doesn’t have to be much; in fact, my mind is mush for a while and cannot absorb anything detailed. If I’m crying, shaking, breathing rapidly, my fists clenching and unclenching as I ride waves of emotion and pain, then something as simple as a sweetly whispered “shhhhhhhh…” will do it.

“Good girl” is always welcome. “It’s OK.” “It’s over now.” “That’s my girl.” Such simple words, and so invaluable.

When Danny and I were play partners, a favorite thing of his to say to me afterward was, “Is my sweet Erica back now?”

“Yes,” I’d murmur, unable to look at him. I can never look up, at first. I keep my face buried.

“Good, because I love her very much,” he’d reply. I could be wickedly prickly, bitchy, sarcastic and sharp-tongued, but after he took me to task, I was forgiven. And I was always loved.

Craig always called me “baby.” That word, in the wrong context, can be unbearably condescending. But the way he said it, at just the right time, made me feel protected and warm, much like the fur blanket he wrapped around me those cold nights at the Lair.

New Guy’s aftercare? As sweet as he is, which is very, very sweet indeed. 🙂

When I hand myself over to a top, I am giving him my trust. I am, with my actions, saying, “You can inflict pain on me, and I will take it willingly. I am brave for you, because I know I am safe in your hands.” Afterward, when I’m spent, throbbing and feeling laid bare, one of the most touching, loving phrases for me is “I’m so proud of you.”

Yes. Thank you. I like it when I’ve made you proud. Hearing that, and feeling a gentle kiss on my hair, my face, a comforting hand… those are the moments where the world could end and I’d exit blissfully.

Fellow bottoms — does this resonate? What are your beloved aftercare phrases?

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